[This is an old post from Tumblr, originally posted in July 2014. The link to the website referenced no longer works, but the information was from there and you can find those facts elsewhere too.]
I’m not an expert on this topic, but I will share some basic information I found while reading up on it. If you’ve done your research then you will most likely know these things already.
According to http://www.talkinggenetics.co.uk (a Health Care service that supports consanguineous couples and families) one of the most common problems that consanguineous couples may run into when it comes to making a family, is that of Autosomal Recessive Inheritance. Autosomal means that it can affect both female and male children.
If you follow this link and click on the first picture to the right of the page, you will be led through a video which will explain in a simplified form how this type of gene transfer works, and what are the chances of having a child with a genetic disorder.
According to studies done on this subject, the chances of having a child with a genetic defect for a cousin couple is double the risk for a non-related couple. But the risk, to begin with, is not large, and studies have shown that cousin couples have a 93% chance of having healthy children.
Having a higher risk of passing on health issues does not necessarily mean you will encounter problems, as the risks for cousin couples are not significantly higher than that between any two, un-related people. The reason that there is a risk at all is because a couple that are related would share more genes (that are likely to be the same type of recessive gene) than those who are unrelated, since they will have received these genes from the same family tree. And if the child gets a faulty gene from each parent, this is when it may affect their offspring. There is a 25 percent chance of this happening, but only IF the parents are both carriers of the samekind of bad gene.
Since so much of this is dependent on your individual genetics and the health history of your shared ancestry, it is important to seek out genetic counseling to help you make an informed decision on what’s right for you.
This process would involve obtaining a medical history of your family (including identifying any diseases that run in the bloodline), considering patterns of inheritance of a specific condition that may suggest the chance of a recurrence down the line, genetic testing (by blood samples), as well as finding resources (for both emotional support & self-education).
Since the Internet is full of unreliable and conflicting information, the best way to get an accurate assessment of your options is to go to a professional genetic councilor. Since cousin marriages are common in certain cultures, there will always be services available for people in these kinds of relationships. The best thing about those services is that they are non-directive, which means that the third party will listen to their clients’ concerns and views, guiding the clients to evaluate their own needs and make their own decisions based on the facts, without bias.
I’d also like to add that I know someone who is in a cousin marriage. They have three children together, who are all healthy. The wife must’ve been in her 30s and the husband in his 40s when they had their third child, but this child is as healthy as the first two, who they had years before her.
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Anonymous asked: hi, i was wondering if there’s anything wrong with dating your 4th cousin? And how to deal with family reactions?
There is nothing inherently wrong about dating or being in love with a relative, as long as it’s fully consensual. In many places in the world, first cousins can marry. In even more places, 2nd cousins, 3rd cousins, 4th cousins, etc can marry.
I’m not the person to ask about more complicated things like advice on how to deal with family reactions. I have made little suggestions before but there are things others would be better suited to help you with.
So I would recommend you visit some of these sites where you can find communities of people that would be more knowledgeable about this topic:
This was a submission by a woman in her 30s for this blog, answering some questions about her relationship with her first cousin. Thank you, anon, for sharing this!
What is your sexual orientation and gender identity?
I am a straight (cis) woman and he is a straight (cis) man.
What kind of relationship are you currently in?
I’m in a straight cousin/cousin relationship. We also have an age difference of over 10 years. He is the older one.
How did you meet your partner?
We did not grow up together. We maybe saw each other a few times but no real interaction or interest. The age difference was too much. He spent a lot of time away for years and we did not interact for decades.
What stage of your relationship are you in?
Our relationship is pretty new but very strong. We are committed to staying together.
How do you feel about your relationship dynamic?
It’s very happy, open, and communicative. We discuss our feelings very well and feel secure with each other.
Do you currently have or do you plan on having children with your partner? (biological or by adoption)
No, not at all and no plans to have children.
Is there anyone else like you who’s relationship you admire, that reminds you of your own?
Not really but then again, I know a lot of unhappy couples.
Do your friends and family know about your relationship? How do they feel about it?
No, our relationship is currently secret and we plan on keeping it that way. It’s not anyone else’s business.
Has anyone ever criticized you based on your personal life or your sexual/romantic feelings? How did you or your partner handle it?
See above. Secrecy = no criticism.
What would you tell those going through similar struggles as you in their love lives?
Follow your heart and be with the person you want to be with. There is nothing wrong with having a private relationship either. People may not accept your relationship but you shouldn’t make it your problem.