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A Fan video for The Color Wheel film (brother-sister)

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The Color Wheel – Colin/JR (Flaws And All)

I always wondered why there was no fanvid for the siblings in the film The Color Wheel. I guess it’s because it’s not as well-known as other films/shows. I also always wanted to make a vid with the song “Flaws and All” by Beyoncé. So, with the idea of a consanguinamory awareness art campaign, it occurred to me I can do this! (I decided to upload this one to a new YouTube channel instead of my main channel)

I think the song fits them SO much because it is about them learning to love each other despite what they each may have considered to be “flaws” in the other. Personally, I think the bro is more flawed than the sis, but since this song is sung by a female, I edited it this way from her POV mostly, but actually it’s mutual and it’s about both of their feelings about the other.

The way this fits into the “Consanguinamory plotline” is this: There are all these ugly myths about consensual incest in real life and whenever people come even the tiniest bit close to tolerating it, they have unrealistic expectations about perfection… but the reality is that people have flaws, relationships have flaws — including incestuous ones. That does NOT mean that these relationships cannot work. Consenting incestuous pairings can STILL work despite having flaws like any other type of relationship. e.g., The bro and sis in the story learn to love each other unconditionally…

That’s what it means to love: to accept flaws and all. And we as a society should be aware of that when thinking about whether or not a related pairing is “valid”. And consanguinamorous pairs should not have to try and aspire to unrealistic ideals of perfection in order to be accepted or to stay together. This film and this song are the very essence of Unconditional Love, a theme I am drawn to again and again and the reason I am interested in this topic intellectually.

This video was also inspired by the write-up Shipcestuous did on this film, which I thought was an amazing analysis: https://x4ashes4ashes.wordpress.com/2014/08/25/the-color-wheel/

It’s that review that made me want to watch this movie long time ago. 🙂

Any positive comments would be appreciated.

Abuse, Grooming, Open Family, Incest Abuse

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**Trigger warning. Discussing abuse**

I’ve been wanting to write just one post about this topic, but it’s hard because the topic of grooming and abuse really disturbs me. When talking about topics like consensual incest, it tends to attract all kinds of people, some of whom may have the wrong impression of what you actually support.

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Scholarly papers/research reports and other good resources on consensual incest (consanguinamory)

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Are you one of those people who ask “WHY??” when you see someone supporting consensual adult incest? Do not ask that question unless you have the balls to deal with the actual answer. If you’re going to be an anti, at least be an informed anti. Human rights deserves more than two seconds of thought. Two seconds of thought makes for a worthless opinion, because that is what is called a knee-jerk reaction. It’s not an argument, it’s not a thoughtful opinion, it’s a reaction based on whim.

Are you someone who is curious about the facts behind a subject that is often presented in a distorted, dehumanized, dishonest way by popular media and society?

The below is a small list I sent to someone after they asked for a list of articles about consensual incest. I want to expand this list later, but for now, here are some scholarly articles and other well-written pieces and videos you can check out.

The content in these articles/resources might be challenging for some people. I still find some of it challenging on a personal/intellectual level. The important thing is to understand that personal disgust/dislike is not a legitimate reason to deny other people their rights or to pass moral judgement on their lives.

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These materials go beyond cousin couples, but the topics discussed provides a big-picture sense of the issues around consanguinamory, and better illuminates where cousin couples fit into this picture, as well as how the stigmatization of other kinds of consensual adult incest affects the way cousin couples are perceived and treated in society. So even though it may seem off-topic for the usual themes of this blog, it is still connected to the themes in important ways.

Here are the materials:

1. English translated version of the German Ethics Council’s report about incest: https://www.ethikrat.org/fileadmin/Publikationen/Stellungnahmen/englisch/opinion-incest-prohibition.pdf

2. Royal Commission report recommending that incest be legalized (this is an old report but very relevant to the topic). There are 4 or 5 PDF files, one for each part of the report. Once the files are on your computer you can open each one and search for the topic. (Part one has the recommendation in brief. The final part has more detailed argument and conclusion): https://apo.org.au/node/34438?fbclid=IwAR21eYklk6bnooiHL_xuXPgH0OOoyEQyJNgTVEUfhF79ImOxR2byz9TFsIo

3. “The Incest Horrible: Delimiting the Lawrence v. Texas” This is one of my top favorite scholarly articles exploring legality. You can download it through the “download” button here: https://repository.law.umich.edu/mjgl/vol23/iss1/4/#.WXf2pMuhqtE.twitter

4. “Incest is Best: The Problem of a Moral Taboo” by Vera Bergelson is another brilliant one. You can download it here: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3228796

5. Rudolf Mandelbaum’s Social Justice Articles: The guy who wrote these wanted to develop his arguments more and make an updated version. It’s worth reading both versions.

Original article: https://medium.com/rudolf-mandelbaum/incest-is-a-social-justice-issue-9a40f69e9ae5

Updated article: https://medium.com/rudolf-mandelbaum/incest-is-a-social-justice-issue-updated-version-4edbee454413

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Supporting writers of consanguinamory

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If you want to support writers that explore consanguinamory (consensual incest) in fiction, please read this. No one should have to deal with hate for exercising their freedom of speech/creative freedom.

This is a message from an author of a book with consanguinamory themes. The novel she wrote is about romance between two half-siblings. The book is called  “Forbidden: Our Secret Love: The Larson Family Saga, Book 2.” This message was sent to the blogger FullMarriageEquality (Keith). I am just sharing it here, with permission from FullMarriageEquality:

Dear Keith,

It’s been nearly a year since our last email communication, but I continue to follow your Full Marriage Equality blog. As you may recall, I published Forbidden: Our Secret Love–a beautiful story of love between two adult half-siblings–twenty months ago.

Since I published Forbidden I’ve been stunned by the pervasiveness of incestaphobia in our society. I cannot comprehend what creates so much disgust, hatred and fear over a loving relationship between two consenting adults! Forbidden is continually attacked by reviewers on Amazon and Goodreads despite a very clear warning in the blurb about the subject matter. On May 14th, a reviewer wrote, “This author is sick. Brother sister sexual relations. It doesn’t get much worse than this. I think this is autobiographical. It was pro-incest propaganda.” One star.

This hurts. Forbidden is a story that came from my heart, because I truly believe that love takes many forms, and none are worthy of condemnation. Beyond my personal feelings, these negative reviews are hurting my reputation as an author. Readers who love my other books are so disgusted by the incest in Forbidden that they’ll probably never read another book written by me. As a professional writer, I’m tempted to unpublish the book for this reason. It would break my heart to give up and give in to hate, because I believe in what you and others in the community are doing.

I don’t know if you’ve read Forbidden, but if so, I would deeply appreciate some input from you and/or other consangs. Above all, is the book an accurate portrayal of a consanguinous relationship? Because if it isn’t, I either need to make some changes or delete it altogether. I would welcome comments from the consang community at my author’s email address:

‪quinnlarsonauthor@outlook.com‬.

Thanks for all you are doing, and for taking the time to read this lengthy email.

I really need input from folks other than incestaphobes before I decide what to do about this beautiful book that does not deserve all the negativity it’s receiving.

I’ve changed the Kindle price to .99 and attached a link to Amazon. Thanks. Link: https://www.amazon.com/Forbidden-Secret-Love-Larson-Family-ebook/dp/B07HRVB61Y

Sincerely,

Elise Quinn Larson

Organizing my WordPress, and missing posts.

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Wow, I just started trying to see which posts are missing since I had to copy over all my posts from my Tumblr, which was the original version of this blog…. and I realized there are a bunch missing or incomplete or with broken links… this will take some time to smooth out. If anyone wants to read my original posts properly (from long time ago when I first started this blog), see my Tumblr page.

Apparently looking through the Archive there is also a good way to find posts by Month/Year or tags: https://rainbowamory.tumblr.com/archive

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Things over there may be all over the place too, but all the posts are at least intact. It’s going to take awhile for me to sort out my WordPress so that it reflects everything on the Tumblr page post by post. So, for now, feel free to look at my Tumblr if you want to see everything that should be here.

Meanwhile, I am going to re-post the things that are not on WordPress and fix issues.

Introduction to this Blog~

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Hello,

I’m Rainbowamory, or “Rain” for short. I may have seemed to appear out of nowhere but I come from Tumblr. Due to the rule changes that are happening in the kinds of content we’re allowed to put on there, I decided to move all my stuff onto WordPress, just in case my Tumblr disappeared.

This was my original page: http://rainbowamory.tumblr.com

This is a very short intro to the material on this WordPress.

Part of this material (specifically that in the Cousin Love and LGBT sections and personal and Fiction sections of the sidebar are my own writing or commentary). Anything in the category of “Tumblr Reblogs” were posts I re-blogged from other people in the overall spirit of my blog.

So what is this WordPress page about? Originally I made my Tumblr to try and educate myself on the subject of unconventional relationships. One half was dedicate to romantic relationships between cousins, straight or gay, and the other half was dedicated to LGBT material.

I am a writer and I wanted to know more about these topics so that I could more accurately portray certain kinds of characters in my fiction. I also wanted to dispel myths and share what I learned with other people in the process.

During my time on Tumblr, and by following other pages there, I feel I learned much of what I needed to already. But I may post new stuff here in the future.

This is to a large extent a personal blog, so I will be writing in a kind of informal style. I support consensual romantic and/or sexual love, including that between first cousins. I am transgender (FTM). I am not involved in an incestuous relationship myself. If you ever want to contribute a piece to this blog, or if you have any questions, you are welcome to send it in, as long as it’s on topic.

You should also read this as it was possibly the most important question anyone asked me on this blog: https://rainbowamory.home.blog/2018/04/05/would-you-consider-incest-a-valid-sect-in-the/

And…that’s it for now~! Thanks!

-Rain

[Due to posts having been originally published on Tumblr, some links may be broken… if you come across a broken link, try looking for that same post on my Tumblr page. I will have to fix those eventually]