~Unconditional Love~

I know what Unconditional Love is because my lesbian girlfriend promised me that if there is a Heaven (not the Christian heaven, I don’t want to go there even if I could… but just some kind of heaven) and I finally get what I want (to be a biological guy) she would still love me. That is the only thing on the face of this earth that can make me feel loved… that promise.

I believe that what you WANT is as much a part of who you are as what you actually have.

All these transphobic hypocrites.. I’d love to see how they act if they have the ability to actually CHOOSE.. to choose their body, choose their life, choose their family, their friends, their surroundings. The problem with this dumb world is that people don’t give each other the full range of options from which to choose.. and that’s sad. Because when you live and think like that, all you’ll ever know is Conditional love. It’s nothing compared to the real thing.

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The Dynamics of Cousin Relationships

This is another great post you should check out, with informational links.

I really liked this observation especially:

In the US, there is a false notion that marriages between first cousins in a Southern thing, but the varying state laws do not support that idea. Rather, these relationships exist in every region and in every class.

 

The Dynamics of Cousin Relationships

Consanguineous Love

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I am completely in love with my cousin. We had conversations where we both said we believe we are soul mates, because of how deep our connections feels between us. I finally took the plunge, and told her I was in love with her, and she smiled and agreed.

But we are both already married. And my wife hates me being around her. So I have had to turn away from my cousin… and it hurts my heart every day…

Hey dude, I’m sorry it’s been like that for you. The important thing is that you are honest with yourself and she is kind enough to allow you to express how you feel. So many people in this world repress what they really think… if society were more tolerant overall there would be many more relationships like yours where two people (even if closely related) could just admit their attractions to each other. As you are married, it’s best not to pursue anything but I hope you and your cousin still maintain the ability to have honest conversations with each other.

Thanks for sharing. 🙂

My response to madamenoire.com article

If you really want to see it, is here here, but be warned. Ignorance abounds: http://madamenoire.com/488938/celebrities-who-married-a-cousin/

_The Comment I left:

There is a lot
of misinformation here. As someone who has read up on cousin/cousin
relationships extensively for my writing, I can see so much distortion and
prejudice in your article it’s disgusting. Journalists are supposed to present
facts without telling people what to think. But you are no different than so
many other self-professed “relationship experts”. The fact is, human
sexuality is diverse and complex. There is no one kind of healthy or normal.
You really have to look at things on a case-by-case basis to try and see which
relationships are right for the individuals involved and which ones may not
be….. I fully agree that some of these marriages are inappropriate, but that
is due to the ages of the females involved, not because of the sheer fact of
their relation to their partner.

For your
information, first cousins have a very low risk level for having kids with
defects. All people (whether related or not) carry a baseline risk for defects.
And first cousins’ risks are only a little higher, not high enough to ban
marriages… which is why many places still allow it. The kind of defects that
can occur are not the kind that would ruin the quality of a kid’s life. They’d
be minor inconveniences, if they happen at all. As for the rare worst case scenario
(of severe mental or physical disability) in the case of cousins there is no
evidence to show that it is caused by their relation.

Any relationship can
produce children with major issues. When major issues do occur for a cousin
couple, it is often because there were several generations in a row of
inbreeding in the same family. There is a HUGE difference between that and the
risks for a cousin marriage where there is no history of incest already in the
family tree. Some of Darwin’s kids had issues.. he also had several generations
of incest in his family (both him and his wife’s side). Every time a person
casually looks at the birth defects, they are not getting a balanced view
because they are not investigating further. The major issues happen when there
are SEVERAL GENERATIONS IN A ROW.

Lastly,
and just as important as the stuff on genetics, what makes you think that these
relationships are somehow less valuable than the ones you are used to?? You
have to be a seriously narcissistic person to think that your experience in
life is the only one that holds any meaning. If you study history, you’d see
that morality is largely subjective to the culture, the times, the individual,
etc. And as for whether or not it is in line with
‘natural selection’ or ‘evolution’, you need to take a closer look at the
animal kingdom. Human beings don’t just go and mate in some base way. Human
relationships are about the mind, the soul, shared values and interests. We are
so much more advanced than animals. You think that these people are being
backwards by loving within their family. But you are so far removed from their
experience that you cannot begin to see how far ahead they are in their views
of love. Real Love is not about reproduction and mating like an animal in heat.
Reproduction is a separate matter that should be looked at with consideration
to ACTUAL facts about risk levels on a case-by-case basis – not a generalized
paranoid opinion of someone who is more interested in sensationalism than
truth.

To the author of this article and her fans: You
are not relationship experts. Get over yourselves. There are children of cousin
couples all over this world who are dealing with unnecessary stigma because of
people like YOU. I am not defending customs here… Cousin marriage as a
widespread custom is dangerous in the long term. But I will fully defend those
(in a minority) that marry their cousins out of genuine love and connection.
You cannot speak for these people. They have a voice of their own and each one
is different. Cousin marriage is a complex and controversial topic but in order
to understand it fully you need to be able to look at it from ALL angles and
make distinctions between harmful and harmless, all the while acknowledging
that people have the right to choose how to live and love, as long as there is
consent. They’re not here to play a puppet role for you or anyone. There are a
multitude of ways to be a COUSIN, and to be HUMAN. I’d much rather hang out
with free-minded people any day than those who spread ignorance with pride.

For an example of unbiased journalism, see this: http://www.atomica.com/article/1269307/15-celebs-who-married-family-members

Plenty of fish in the sea

When people look perplexed at your sexual or romantic choices, saying that there are plenty of other people you could choose from, its senseless. If you are monogamous, then you’d end up with one person anyway, so it doesn’t matter how many people there are in the world… the important thing is that the one you pick is the right one, for you.