I wanted to share this clip of author Chimamanda
Adichie’s speech about Single Stories. I thought her words were really powerful and something writers should keep in mind if they value realism in a story. Even if they don’t value realism, they should keep in mind that what they write has the power to spread ignorance or spread knowledge, and they shouldn’t take that power lightly. Her words resonated alot with me since I want to be an author someday. I put in bold the parts that are most relevant to our usual topics of discussion here.

Here are

Chimamanda Adichie’s words Quoted:

“I come from a conventional, middle class,
Nigerian family. My father was a professor. My mother was an administrator. And
so we had (as was the norm) live-in domestic help who would often come from
nearby rural villages. So the year I turned 8, we got a new house boy. His name
was Philip. The only thing my mother told us about him was that his family was
very poor […] so I felt enormous pity for Philip’s family.

Then one Saturday we
went to visit and his mother showed us a beautifully patterned basket […] that
his brother has made. I was startled. It had not occurred to me that anybody in
his family could actually make something. All that I had heard about them was
how poor they were so that it had become impossible for me to see them as
anything but poor. Their poverty was my single story of them […] When I left
Nigeria to go to university in the United States […] My roommate had a single
story of Africa… a single story of catastrophe. In this single story there was
no possibility of Africans being similar to her in any way—no possibility of
feelings more complex than pity, no possibility of a connection as human equals

[…] that is how to create a single story: show a people as one thing and only
one thing over and over again and that is what they become.

It is impossible to talk about the single
story without talking about power.
There is a word […] I think about whenever I
think about the power structures of the world and it is ______. It’s a noun that
loosely translates to ‘to be greater than another’. Like our economic and
political walls, stories too are defined by the principle of ______; how they
are told, who tells them, when they are told, how many stories are told… are
really dependent on power.
Power is the ability not just to tell the story of
another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person.”

Stories matter […] Stories have been used
to dispossess and to malign but stories can also be used to empower and to
humanize. Stories can break the dignity of a people but stories can also repair
that broken dignity
[…] when we reject the single story, when we realize that
there is never a single story about any place, we regain a kind of paradise
.”

(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtvVRw5H6cc)

This man is just amazing. 🙂 It’s so nice to know that people like this are here to help the trans community. And he looks young, so hopefully he’ll be practicing for a very long time.

Wow, that was one interesting argument. I was kind of surprised by what he said at the very end, about incest and homosexuality grossing him out, but I think he was simply expressing that it’s not his kind of thing. What’s important is that even while feeling that way, with nothing to gain from supporting this cause, he still stands up for other people’s rights. If more people tried to think this way or at least attempted to maintain a neutral stance on this subject, life would be a little bit easier for such couples. And the world would become a little bit more humane and tolerant, in general.

Why “So Who’s the Boy and Who’s the Girl?” Isn’t Offensive To Me

⬆-This video caught my eye cause I feel the same way. Actually if someone assumes there is no guy in my relationship that actually offends me more, because even though my relationship is outwardly lesbian, I don’t identify as a woman.

I think she explains the topic very well from several angles, but she left out just one thing: one reason this question may NOT be offensive to some people is because one of them identifies as genderqueer or trans. So although it may appear to be a regular lesbian relationship (woman + woman) on the surface (due to one of them not having transitioned yet or having feminine features), beneath that the couple may see each other very differently than how the world sees them (as a boy and a girl, boi + girl, genderqueer + cis, etc). And in that sense, they may be closer to feeling like or behaving like a straight couple than a gay one – even though outwardly they are seen as the same sex.

I know exactly how that feels. And there’s nothing wrong with it 🙂 I respect the fact that my girlfriend is a lesbian and she respects the fact that I don’t identify as a woman.

Sexual tension between cousins in a film

(Post from August 2014)

Well, it’s one-sided, but I read the book and the guy definitely has a thing for his cousin Vivian. But this is not canon and he is not the nicest person… so it’s a kind of weird example but still counts as sexual tension at least. In this story, the cousin dynamic is not healthy…. it’s kind of toxic. The above are clips from movie Blood and Chocolate.

Rafe and Vivian are cousins. I know they weren’t meant to be together (mostly because the guy was an asshole and the girl wasn’t interested) but I can’t help thinking they would’ve made a super beautiful couple if the feelings were mutual. ^-^ Plus I have a soft spot for troubled male characters… and tough girls. Vivien’s so hot.