Tag: love

if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.

Johnny Depp (via feellng)

Utter bullshit.

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I’m gonna go with nope on this, Johnny.

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This is why every time I have another kid I give the first one up for adoption. Also, every time I get a new pet I drown the one I already had; unless it’s a fish, of course, in which case I flush it down the toilet. And when someone brings me a houseplant as a gift, of course I throw the other one into the dumpster behind the grocery store. I mean, you can only love one of any given thing at a time, right? What ya gonna do?

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Human beings took our animal need for palatable food … and turned it into chocolate souffles with salted caramel cream. We took our ability to co-operate as a social species … and turned it into craft circles and bowling leagues and the Metropolitan Museum of Art. We took our capacity to make and use tools … and turned it into the Apollo moon landing. We took our uniquely precise ability to communicate through language … and turned it into King Lear.

None of these things are necessary for survival and reproduction. That is exactly what makes them so splendid. When we take our basic evolutionary wiring and transform it into something far beyond any prosaic matters of survival and reproduction … that’s when humanity is at its best. That’s when we show ourselves to be capable of creating meaning and joy, for ourselves and for one another. That’s when we’re most uniquely human.

And the same is true for sex. Human beings have a deep, hard-wired urge to replicate our DNA, instilled in us by millions of years of evolution. And we’ve turned it into an intense and delightful form of communication, intimacy, creativity, community, personal expression, transcendence, joy, pleasure, and love. Regardless of whether any DNA gets replicated in the process.

Why should we see this as sinful? What makes this any different from chocolate souffles and King Lear?

Greta Christina (Sex and the Off-Label Use of Our Bodies) (via sexisnottheenemy)

Sadly, those who find our sexuality to be “sinful” also find our other creative endeavors to be sinful as well. Those who go after those of us who are LGBT are the first ones to ban books, boycott shows, etc.

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Wow, that is so true… like that cousin marriage book that was on that library site, where they were asking whether or not it should be banned. That book contained FACTS around the topic rather than perpetuating more myths and misconceptions created by willfully blind cultural and religious prejudices. It really says something about a society when people try to control information itself from being put out there… anything that takes a neutral view of a subject that is considered taboo is often attacked by these same people because they know that accepting media or art that present these topics in a positive way is the start of examining it more closely in real life.

I also like what the quote was saying about sex. Something that I’ve noticed people do when making arguments against interbreeding and intermarriage is making this assumption that the couple should not be together because there are others out there that they can be with without taking as much of a reproductive risk. These arguments are misguided for two reasons: first, those making the comments are often speaking in ignorance, not knowing the actual facts behind the risks. Second, they fail to consider that the couple may be together for so much more than just the instinctual desire to reproduce… There’s so much more to a human relationship. Which means that those who make up the relationship are not exchangeable with just any random person in the population. They can be unique and irreplaceable to each other.

To say that certain couples (like a cousin couple for example) should break up because of reproductive risks is an insult to all mutual human relationships, because you are saying that it’s just that easy for people to let go since when it comes to sex all that matters is “replicating your DNA.”

trying to this again. Okay, i came on your blog to tell you that queer is a slur that queer people like myself are reclaiming and if you used it, and are not queer, you suck. i also wanted to let you know that comparing the struggle of queer people and the struggle for queer representation to your need to see a very abnormal fetish represented in media is probably both homophobic and transphobic. queer people deserve representation. incest is sexual fucking assault, people survive that shit. (c)

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samdeangirl84:

Okay, first of all, I am indeed queer. I prefer the term because it is more inclusive than gay or lesbian. I am in no way phobic of any queer identity. Secondly, I am an actual survivor of non-consensual incest but the fact is that I am a survivor of abuse and the incest part was incidental. Just because some incest is abuse does not mean that all of it is.Many people say the same things about non-straight people that you are saying about people who are involved in consensual incest. Finally, this is MY blog and I will post whatever I want on it. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out, sweetheart.

Hey samdeangirl84, I just wanted to throw in my support as well. 🙂 You are an even better person for having come out of your negative experience and not let it colour your view of other people’s (very different) experiences with incest. It seems a lot of the people that use anti-incest arguments only choose to see what they want to see. e.g. They refer to the most pessimistic of scientific evidence and completely ignore the positives so that their arguments are often very biased. They compare it to things that are so far from mutual human relations and consent (some person said it’s like ‘eating rotten meat’) as part of stirring up more impulsive feelings of disgust in others. And then there’s this need to bring in others to ‘support’ their views (with more biased ‘evidence’ and a whole bunch of generalizations), largely fueled by strong personal aversions to something that they themselves wouldn’t like to do. They try to make it seem like they’re doing a social service, but really they are trying to repress others the way they’ve been repressed so they don’t have to challenge their own worldview. I mean how intelligent can an intelligent argument against incest be if the people making it are choosing to completely ignore the fact that there are two sides to everything?

And lastly, if anyone can compare consensual incest to the queer experience without being “homophobic” it would be a queer person. Do people seriously think a proud queer person would actively go out of their way to undermine LBGT rights for any reason?

We care about gay rights as much as any other queer person or ally. We just choose not to be selfish while fighting for our rights.

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ludicrouscupcake:

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johnnyvox-deactivated20111129-d:

I Love My Boo campaign features real young men of color loving each other passionately. Rather than sexualizing gay relationships, this campaign models caring, and highlights the importance of us taking care of each other. Featured throughout New York City, I Love My Boo directly challenges homophobia and encourages all who come across it to critically rethink our notion of love.

GMHC is the world’s first and leading provider of HIV/AIDS prevention, care and advocacy. Building on decades of dedication and expertise, we understand the reality of HIV/AIDS and empower a healthy life for all. GMHC fights to end the AIDS epidemic and uplift the lives of all affected.

this is fucking adorable

SPREAD THESE IMAGES LIKE WILDFIRE PRECISELY BECAUSE THEY FUCK UP THE MISGUIDED STEREOTYPES WE ALL ARE USED TO SEEING.

Why I Support Cousin Love

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-Because Love has many offshoots. Pretending that some don’t exist is like pretending that an ‘illegitimate’ child is somehow less connected to their parent, and that only the ones made under socially acceptable conditions are their true children. ‘illegitimate’ kids may have been marginalized throughout history, but outside of social stigma, they’d be equal in every way to the children made under ‘socially acceptable’ circumstances.

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-Stigma is a hurtful construct. Love is inspiring and natural.  

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-Because when you encourage people to forsake their #1 for a second best, no one ends up happy.  And someone’s #1 could be their cousin.

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-Because I’ve known what it’s like to have people try to push socially constructed identities onto me, while disregarding the real me, intentionally or otherwise. I want to help validate other people’s identities so they never have to experience the kind of self-denial that would keep them from realizing who they really are and what they really want.

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-Because Love is Love. And if you really mean that phrase, you should be able to extend that understanding to other sexual minorities. Otherwise what you’re really saying is “My Love is Love. Your Love is Not.” How many homophobes have said that of your gay relationship? How many racists have implied that of your interracial relationship? Why would you do that to someone else? The lack of a specific word for discrimination against cousin couples doesn’t make your prejudice any less discriminatory.

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-It doesn’t happen to everyone but when it does it’s usually because it’s meant to be.

I will add more to this post now and then.

Added Later (after the first 20 ‘notes’):

-There are a lot of myths around the love between cousin couples. If you take the time to investigate those myths you’d see them for what they really are – myths! If you believe that someone can only fall for their cousin due to manipulation, you are disrespecting that person’s voice, their ability to speak and choose for themselves. YOU are the one inadvertently manipulating them, telling them how they should feel, which of their feelings are their own and which are not.

Loved For Who You Are – Our Beautiful Brokeness

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youarelovedforyou:

What would life be like if none of us hid our emotional scars from each other? If when we looked at each other, we didn’t see people who had been broken (and therefore deserve our scorn, shame, or pity.) What would happen if all we saw was the whole, made more beautiful by their golden scars?

Loved For Who You Are – Our Beautiful Brokeness