I’ve seen this around for awhile now and wondered what the symbolism was. This page explains it. 🙂 When you go to the page, scroll down for more info.
Friends of Lily symbol for Consanguineous Love
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Dealing with online haters
Some of you might find this very useful. The suggestions here are ones I would echo as well.
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I know I haven’t been writing much at all if anything, life has been very… unlucky and if you’ve seen my latest posts and my message to the anon you know I am feeling extremely low. I’d appreciate if you could hit the tip jar button on my posts. If you can’t see the button then you can use the link in this post. You can also paypal me donations to help me keep my blogs (and my poor body) running via kaitcat1124@gmail.com.
Basically I injured my legs and am now back in physical therapy, I had to endure a toxic person for the last month on a daily basis and it messed me up. I am in the midst of getting in with a new therapist. I am also receiving a small monthly stipend and am certifiably disabled and thus cannot work.
If you wish to buy me something you can look at my giant list of shiny things [Here]
In addition I recently had been in the ER for an attempted overdose. I live in a bad family situation and am working to get out. Anything helps, please signal boost this.
Since making this post I started seeing a trauma and disability focused therapist and am working on getting government aid filed. I just need help getting through it and getting out of here. I am also in the process of getting a prescription that qualifies my cats as therapy animals and therefore allowed in apartments. I am not sure where I will be moving in the end but the first step is low income housing and then out of state.
Thank you for reading!
Since I have been sharing this post privately to people close to me and a smattering or others (thanks for any and all reblogs/signal boosts). I couldn’t write up a proper explanation of my situation past the two originals yesterday.
Here’s the facts:
My mom is most likely undiagnosed with NPD. This subthread will give you an idea of what these sort of parents are like.
- I have tried multiple times to tell adults, her therapist(s), and mine that she needs help and she will either attack me, make jabs at me, guilt me or flat out deny any possibility of illness no matter how I choose to approach the topic.
- A reliable source in the family (aka one of the only good and level headed of our blood) told me what she witnessed her doing to my brother (he’s 14 years my senior and an aspie) and it proves that she has always been abusive well before I was born.
- My mom has made horrible threats to shut me up and make me behave through my life even saying I’d be [Trigger warning] beaten and raped if I went into foster care.
- Nowadays her immediate reaction is to dismiss/force me to constantly repeat my triggers or be told to ignore them and give them what she wants.
- She also triggers me to the point of banshee screaming and wailing as I beg to have some space and be left alone. If I don’t let her in she threatens to get me put into a psychiatric ward. She knows how to make me meltdown. She purposefully triggered me by blaming @squireofshadows for what the meds were doing to me along with my illness in 2015 rather than accept that she and the meds were to blame.
- She will guilt me and say I can’t survive or do something because of my mental illnesses.
- Refuses to believe what she’s done is abusive and then guilts us by saying that she isn’t allowed to have feelings. She lies to everyone else and makes us look irrational or like we are just having episodes.
- Refuses to listen to my explanations or read my resources on my illnesses and how they manifest
- Blames me for my rape and abuse
- Whenever she slips up and I call her on it she gaslights me or she tries to say she never said it that way/with that intention/was going that direction.
- Tells me wanting to out my rapists and confront them/get my property back (which means I’d need the funding to convince her to help me make the trip to retrieve the car back and get his name or my name off)
I have: Major Depressive Disorder, comorbid anxiety disorders, possibly BPD, ©-PTSD, I have also had issues with skin picking when overly stressed. I have struggled with suicidal ideation and self harm since I was 8 years old because of my mother. I am legally on SSD and disabled and unemployed.
I am also working to get a prescription for my cats as therapy animals which means I need to update their shots, update the two microchips of my older two and microchip the younger two.
I would appreciate any donations possible.Either at my ko-fi, my paypal, or my wishlist. I really need to get out guys.
Sharing this for a friend. If you can help out please consider. Or if you can re-blog this it would also be greatly appreciated.
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I wanted to post this some other time but since I’m not on here anymore, I wanted to just leave it on my blog for anyone who is interested. This is my youtube channel, where I make fan videos for films or shows I love. 🙂 It’s not directly related to my blog here but it does have some slash. ^_^ This is another way to contact me if you want. -rainbowamory
The Need for Better Representation in Fiction
When it comes to subjects or themes that have social stigma attached to them, it is rare to see them explored in fiction with neutrality. Have you ever watched a film or tv show in which love between cousins is referred to as…
I have the exact same fears about my own story ideas. I’m not at all worried about how my queer & trans characters will be taken b/c I’m sure there is an audience for that. But I am worried about my main and his relationship with his cousin. Especially since he’s going to be the lead in a series and I’m not treating his relationship as a joke or a ‘shock value’ kind of thing. And in that story, I’m going to present a similar attitude as on my blog, that LOVE is Love whether its same kin or the same sex, and that both kinds are natural regardless of people’s personal prejudices. I see now that compared to some others’ stories out there my basic idea isn’t even that controversial. lol Which is kind of a relief to know. (Also, my character is a spoiled rich brat too! lol And he also gets involved with his love during the teen years. ^_^)
But honestly, try not to think too much about the audience. Making this blog and seeing the replies of people like you made me realize there will always be people who understand, people who will think differently and boldly. You will have an audience. Put your mind to making sure what you write is the best quality it can possibly be. Be authentic, and enjoy the process of creating. If you focus on that, the rest will fall into place. 🙂 That’s what I believe.
The Need for Better Representation in Fiction
When it comes to subjects or themes that have social stigma attached to them, it is rare to see them explored in fiction with neutrality. Have you ever watched a film or tv show in which love between cousins is referred to as something distasteful? Something that only unsophisticated, backwards…
This is why I’m writing my book and running this blog. 🙂
That’s awesome! I didn’t get a chance yet to properly check out your project and blog but it’s something I’ve been meaning to do, and will do! I’m working on a story with trans themes myself. And someday I plan to write a series with a main character that is in a relationship with his first cousin from the age of 15 and up. Someone told me incest is a touchy topic but changing that detail about my character’s life is like saying there’s something wrong with it, which I will never ever do, no matter what, especially not to appease the most ignorant groups of people in society. My favourite genre is fantasy/adventure. I’ve always wanted to talk to other people who are working on or planning to write fiction that challenges social stigmas around relationship diversity (nice term by the way! the first time I saw it was on your blog). So good for you and keep doing what you’re doing! 🙂
Court takes couple’s children because father is transgender
Imagine if this were your nightmare.
Daniel and Cindy are young parents whose world has been turned upside down because Daniel is transgender. He transitioned over a decade ago when he was 19, and few people know that he is transgender. When Daniel and Cindy decided to have children, they told Cindy’s parents that Daniel is transgender because they were conceiving in vitro with donated sperm. And, I suppose, they must also have trusted that her parents would continue to accept their son-in-law.
This was a mistake.
Cindy gave birth to healthy twins 2 ½ years ago, and Daniel and Cindy and the twins have been very happy – except for one problem. Cindy’s parents make rude comments about Daniel being transgender, and they do it in front of the twins. Requests for them to stop are met with mirth. Daniel and Cindy put up with this behavior for a long while, but as the twins are getting older, they worry that the negative comments are harmful, and they don’t want to be forced to try and explain concepts to their young children that are beyond their ability or need to understand – in vitro, transgender.
Daniel and Cindy made the difficult decision that the grandparents are no longer welcome in their lives. The grandparents got angry and sued for custody of the children. The twins have two loving parents. Child Protective Services have never been called; there have been no police reports of abuse; neither parent has a criminal record.
Last week, a court removed the twins from their home and gave custody to the grandparents. The reason? Their father is transgender.
Daniel and Cindy are working with a lawyer to try and get their children back. Will they get them back? Who knows? What we do know that the children have pulled out of their home and are living with two people who demean and ridicule their father.
And if they do get the children back, their lives will never be the same. Everyone in town either knows or soon will know that Daniel is transgender, and he will likely lose his job. If the children are gone too long, they may not trust their parents when they return. Daniel and Cindy will either spend savings or go into debt to pay legal fees. And they go to bed every night distraught because their children are not with them. They don’t know if their children are crying for them, but surely their children must be confused.
This isn’t a story made up as an example of what might happento someone who is transgender. This is really happening to a young couple and their twins. I’ve changed the names because the case hasn’t hit the news, so perhaps the family will be able to maintain some privacy.
The take away? While it may not be discrimination for the grandparents to be hateful to their son-in-law; it certainly is discriminatory for the Court to make a custody decision based on the father’s transgender status. Transgender non-discrimination laws would give these parents and their children better legal protections to be a family free from government interference. Also, if Courts are permitted to take children from otherwise good parents because one parent is transgender, who’s next?
Support the passage of anti-discrimination legislation in support of transgender people, whoever you are, wherever you live.
If consensual incest is insulting to survivors of non-consensual incest then….
All heterosexual relationships are insulting to people who have been raped/abused by a partner of the opposite sex.
All homosexuality is insulting to every choir boy who’s ever been raped by a priest.
All marriage is insulting to child brides.
All interracial relationships are insulting to the thousands of African American slaves who were violated by white masters.
All religion is insulting to every single person who has been killed/beaten/shunned in the name of God.
Do I need to go on here? No? Okay, lets turn this around and get it right.
Abusive, non-consensual incest is insulting to every consensual, loving, healthy incestuous relationship that has ever existed.
Rape and abuse are insulting to healthy, loving heterosexual relationships.
Every single priest who has ever raped a choir boy is an insult to homosexuality.
Forced unions between grown men and little girls are an insult to marriage.
Every time a master violated a slave it was an insult to loving, consensual interracial relationships.
Every single act of violence, hatred, or bigotry that has ever been done in the name of religion is insulting to God.
*steps down off soap box now*
If consensual incest is insulting to survivors of non-consensual incest then….
I want to make it clear that I am all for queer representation. I have a personal stake in it and I desperately want more queer characters on tv. But the way to do that is to launch a general campaign for more queer characters, not try to force writers to make specific characters queer. I don’t…
Are you a person of trans experience? Let your voice be heard!
Are you a person of trans experience? Let your voice be heard!
We are a group of researchers from the Marginalization, Mental Health, and Empowerment Team at Columbia University. Our team is made up of LGBTQ folks and allies. We’re interested in learning more about your…
Are you a person of trans experience? Let your voice be heard!
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