Category: Mixed Topic posts
The Need for Better Representation in Fiction
When it comes to subjects or themes that have social stigma attached to them, it is rare to see them explored in fiction with neutrality. Have you ever watched a film or tv show in which love between cousins is referred to as…
I have the exact same fears about my own story ideas. I’m not at all worried about how my queer & trans characters will be taken b/c I’m sure there is an audience for that. But I am worried about my main and his relationship with his cousin. Especially since he’s going to be the lead in a series and I’m not treating his relationship as a joke or a ‘shock value’ kind of thing. And in that story, I’m going to present a similar attitude as on my blog, that LOVE is Love whether its same kin or the same sex, and that both kinds are natural regardless of people’s personal prejudices. I see now that compared to some others’ stories out there my basic idea isn’t even that controversial. lol Which is kind of a relief to know. (Also, my character is a spoiled rich brat too! lol And he also gets involved with his love during the teen years. ^_^)
But honestly, try not to think too much about the audience. Making this blog and seeing the replies of people like you made me realize there will always be people who understand, people who will think differently and boldly. You will have an audience. Put your mind to making sure what you write is the best quality it can possibly be. Be authentic, and enjoy the process of creating. If you focus on that, the rest will fall into place. 🙂 That’s what I believe.
September-December 2014 Poll Results
So, this isn’t many votes but that’s cause I don’t have like a huge amount of followers or anything. I just find it very interesting to see what kind of people follow my blog. So thank you guys for voting!! ^_^
The Need for Better Representation in Fiction
When it comes to subjects or themes that have social stigma attached to them, it is rare to see them explored in fiction with neutrality. Have you ever watched a film or tv show in which love between cousins is referred to as something distasteful? Something that only unsophisticated, backwards…
This is why I’m writing my book and running this blog. 🙂
That’s awesome! I didn’t get a chance yet to properly check out your project and blog but it’s something I’ve been meaning to do, and will do! I’m working on a story with trans themes myself. And someday I plan to write a series with a main character that is in a relationship with his first cousin from the age of 15 and up. Someone told me incest is a touchy topic but changing that detail about my character’s life is like saying there’s something wrong with it, which I will never ever do, no matter what, especially not to appease the most ignorant groups of people in society. My favourite genre is fantasy/adventure. I’ve always wanted to talk to other people who are working on or planning to write fiction that challenges social stigmas around relationship diversity (nice term by the way! the first time I saw it was on your blog). So good for you and keep doing what you’re doing! 🙂
trying to this again. Okay, i came on your blog to tell you that queer is a slur that queer people like myself are reclaiming and if you used it, and are not queer, you suck. i also wanted to let you know that comparing the struggle of queer people and the struggle for queer representation to your need to see a very abnormal fetish represented in media is probably both homophobic and transphobic. queer people deserve representation. incest is sexual fucking assault, people survive that shit. (c)
Okay, first of all, I am indeed queer. I prefer the term because it is more inclusive than gay or lesbian. I am in no way phobic of any queer identity. Secondly, I am an actual survivor of non-consensual incest but the fact is that I am a survivor of abuse and the incest part was incidental. Just because some incest is abuse does not mean that all of it is.Many people say the same things about non-straight people that you are saying about people who are involved in consensual incest. Finally, this is MY blog and I will post whatever I want on it. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out, sweetheart.
Hey samdeangirl84, I just wanted to throw in my support as well. 🙂 You are an even better person for having come out of your negative experience and not let it colour your view of other people’s (very different) experiences with incest. It seems a lot of the people that use anti-incest arguments only choose to see what they want to see. e.g. They refer to the most pessimistic of scientific evidence and completely ignore the positives so that their arguments are often very biased. They compare it to things that are so far from mutual human relations and consent (some person said it’s like ‘eating rotten meat’) as part of stirring up more impulsive feelings of disgust in others. And then there’s this need to bring in others to ‘support’ their views (with more biased ‘evidence’ and a whole bunch of generalizations), largely fueled by strong personal aversions to something that they themselves wouldn’t like to do. They try to make it seem like they’re doing a social service, but really they are trying to repress others the way they’ve been repressed so they don’t have to challenge their own worldview. I mean how intelligent can an intelligent argument against incest be if the people making it are choosing to completely ignore the fact that there are two sides to everything?
And lastly, if anyone can compare consensual incest to the queer experience without being “homophobic” it would be a queer person. Do people seriously think a proud queer person would actively go out of their way to undermine LBGT rights for any reason?
We care about gay rights as much as any other queer person or ally. We just choose not to be selfish while fighting for our rights.
If consensual incest is insulting to survivors of non-consensual incest then….
All heterosexual relationships are insulting to people who have been raped/abused by a partner of the opposite sex.
All homosexuality is insulting to every choir boy who’s ever been raped by a priest.
All marriage is insulting to child brides.
All interracial relationships are insulting to the thousands of African American slaves who were violated by white masters.
All religion is insulting to every single person who has been killed/beaten/shunned in the name of God.
Do I need to go on here? No? Okay, lets turn this around and get it right.
Abusive, non-consensual incest is insulting to every consensual, loving, healthy incestuous relationship that has ever existed.
Rape and abuse are insulting to healthy, loving heterosexual relationships.
Every single priest who has ever raped a choir boy is an insult to homosexuality.
Forced unions between grown men and little girls are an insult to marriage.
Every time a master violated a slave it was an insult to loving, consensual interracial relationships.
Every single act of violence, hatred, or bigotry that has ever been done in the name of religion is insulting to God.
*steps down off soap box now*
If consensual incest is insulting to survivors of non-consensual incest then….
List of My Blogs
List of My Blogs
As separate from the re-blogs, just to keep things organized:
LGBT-related:
The ‘90 Percent Gay Rights’ Supporter
Coming Out To Yourself (For Those In The Questioning Stage)
Special Double Rainbow At WorldPride (2014)
What Type Of Lesbian Are You? (Does it Matter?)
The Stigma Around Online Dating
Cousin-Couple related:
Can Cousin Couples Have Healthy Children?
On The Question of Interbreeding – Where Most People Get Stuck
Why I Support Cousin Love (work in progress)
Where to draw the line with cousin/cousin reproduction (my opinion)
Mixed Topic – Cousin Love & Gay Rights:
Overcoming Personal Prejudices
The Need For Better Representation In Fiction
Cousin Love & LBGTQ Romance In Film
Other:
Question About Cousin-Cousin Reproduction
Question About Beauty & The Beast
Cousin Marriage & Genetics Re-blog Comments
2 of my Random Photoshop Drawings:
July-August Followers’ Poll Results (2014)
Here are the results for the July-August (2014) Polls!
Thank you to those that voted! And Thank you for your honesty!
If you ever want to send in your stories, please see Submissions
Guidelines.
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Submission to rainbowamory from cousinfacts tumblr (August 2014)
cousinfacts asked: Your blog is awesome. YOU are awesome.
Thank you so much! I was really happy to see your blog too. 🙂 Keep up the great work!!
Want to Share Your Stories?
This was something I’ve been wanting to do for awhile.
I thought that adding some personal stories would make this blog more meaningful and informative for those that come across it, including people in similar situations. This is your chance to have your say on this blog. So, my question is: Do you have a story you would like to share, about your experience with LGBTQ relationships or cousin/cousin relationships?
The terms: You can submit it to me as anonymous to protect your identities. I will only post with your permission. Anytime after it’s been posted, if you feel anxious about the information and change your mind, all you need to do is ask and I will remove it. Anytime once it’s been posted, if you want to add anything or take out certain details you feel uncomfortable sharing, you can make the edit and I will re-post your story with the edits. I will post up one at a time in a separate blog url and link to it here on the main blog (that way all the stories will be in one place rather than mixed up with all the other posts here). Let’s say 1-5 pages is the limit. There is no set deadline – you can submit whenever you want.
I’m going to leave this submissions call up forever. ^_^
As a guide, I came up with some areas you could touch upon:
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Possible topics to cover: (These are just prompts. You can ignore them altogether and just write your story your own way and send it. That’s ok too.)
ღ What is your sexual orientation and gender identity?
*What kind of relationship are you currently in? Or seeking? (gay? straight (trans)? cousin/cousin?)
*How did you meet your partner or crush? (e.g. online, at an event, introduced by friends, grew up together, etc)
*What stage of your relationship are you in? (just starting out? been dating for awhile? engaged? married? haven’t asked them out yet?)
*How do you feel about your relationship? (do you think it’s perfect, difficult, happy, a mix?)
ღ Do you currently have or do you plan on having children with your partner? (biological or by adoption)
*Is there anyone else like you who’s relationship you admire, that reminds you of your own? (e.g. a historical, fictional, celebrity, or real life couple you know of that has/had the same kind of relationship as you) What about it reminds you of your relationship?
*Do your friends and family know about your situation or your crush? How do they feel about it?
*Has anyone ever criticized you based on your personal life or your sexual/romantic feelings? How did you or your partner handle it?
*What would you tell those going through similar struggles as you in their love lives?
ღ How would you ‘explain’ your love to those that don’t understand it? Or are unfamiliar with how it works.
You can talk about experiences of discrimination, people accepting or rejecting you, self-discovery, coming out, future plans, allies, attitude towards life and love, sex – and whatever else you feel is relevant.
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Contact: You can contact me 2 ways.
By e-mail: muffinsandblades@hotmail.com (if you don’t have a Tumblr account)
Or by sending me a message on Tumblr. Whatever option works for you.
If you decide to participate, I look forward to hearing from you! 🙂 ♡!
rainbowamory 